Category Archives: Parenting
I’m frustrated. I really am.
One of the hardest things I have found about ministering to families is the fact that they are so busy. Between school, work, sports, music practice, vacations, and other activities, they are rarely to be found. Never have we had so many opportunities to be involved in so much stuff. I can’t say that all this activity is bad thing. As a matter of fact, most people would consider this…normal.
Think about it, when was the last time asked, “So, are you staying busy?” How are you to answer that? You are always inclined to say yes. Why? Because it is expected. People expect themselves and other people to be “busy”. If you were to answer to the contrary, what kind of look would you get? What kind of smart remark would you receive? Would you be perceived as joking or being sarcastic? We certainly need to work hard and make good use of our time, but are we are really called to be busy? Is being busy a true sign of success, health, or normality?
My frustration lies where the hectic pace of life can negatively affect the spiritual growth of the family. Hopefully this doesn’t sound like your family: Me:”Hey, we have missed seeing you at church on Sundays.” Parent:”Oh, yeah, well…as busy as we are, Sundays are the only time we can spend together as a family.” Really? I often heard this and scratched my head. But, it makes sense to me, now. Monday through Friday is filled with school, work, practices, homework, and other valuable activities. Saturday is the day families spend playing all those sports they have practiced for all week, or spending all that money they have earned – which is rarely relaxing zipping through malls and grocery stores, driving in hectic amounts of traffic. Saturdays are project days at our home, while others work on the car, or do a little extra work for the office. Certainly nothing I have mentioned is a problem and is all useful. Then Sunday rolls around and our busy families need a day to recover from the previous week of busy and prepare for the coming week of busy, and it is just to difficult to make it to church.
I know that it sounds like I am complaining, but I am really concerned. Why? Because I have yet to hear people with grown up children say, “Wow, I wish our family had not spent so much time at church.” Or, “If only we had spent more Sundays at home, then our children would really love the Lord.” Nope, haven’t heard it. What I have heard is, “If only we had been more involved in church…” or “We made the mistake of not involving our kids in church, an now…” Do I sound like I am pushing the issue of church involvement? You better believe I am. Is church involvement more important than a relationship with Christ? Nope, but the admonishment to regularly meet in worship is still right here.
God’s word makes it very clear. “And let us be concerned about one another in order to promote love and good works, not staying away from our worship meetings, as some habitually do, but encouraging each other, and all the more as you see the day drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25 HCSV) This is not a statement made to all families in general. It is directed at people who claim to love and fear God. Do you see my frustration? The families that I am struggling to see involved in church are Christian families, the ones that claim they want their children to love and fear God, too. If you know me even just a little, you know that church involvement does not take the place of spiritual leadership at home. As a matter of fact, just because your family attends church every time the doors are open does not guarantee that your family will successfully grow in their relationship with God. It takes both the family and church working together for there to be growth.
I make this statement all the time to my children, “Don’t stop at the problem, tell me the solution.” So, what is the solution? I believe it begins with:
- Make Christ the priority in our families. We spend the most time doing what we love the most. If we love our kids the most, we spend all our time doing things centered around them. If we love our job, we spend extra time doing things for our job. Christ is to be our first love. All other loves before Him is idolatry.
- Be less busy. God has given us all the time we need to accomplish all we need to accomplish. If we run out of time, it is our own fault for misusing it. If busy is normal, than we need to be okay being different, or Craig Groeschel would call it Weird.
- Attend church regularly, more often than Christmas and Easter. Most churches have several services throughout the week. Try to join one consistently. If not church service, at least a church small group who consistently studies God’s Word and offers opportunities to worship and encourage one another.
- Be aware that time is short. You only have a few years with your family together. Time in general is waning. Every moment counts. How will you spend the little amount of time we have been given to grow you and your family closer to God?
Agree or disagree? What some other things families can do to make Christ and regular church involvement priorities? Blessings.
The Orange Conference 2012 has come and gone, and I have no disappointments or regrets. Never before have I met so many of the most innovative and sincere people, all in one place, all seeking the same goal. From the main stage to the breakouts. From the vendors to the volunteers. From the churches of 100 to churches of 10000, the conversation was the same. In the lunch line, on the lawn, around a great cup of coffee, projected on the screen…everywhere, the message was focused and clear.
We are all part of God’s Big Story and it takes Families and Churches working together to make positive change for future generations.
Lets break it down.
We were created to worship and have relation with God. Sin destroyed that relationship for all people. We tried to follow God’s laws, but failed every time. We were out of options and left with no hope of salvation. Then, Jesus bridged the gap. Grace fell like rain. Our relationship with God was restored. No one is excluded form this gift of life…they just have to ask. Children, youth, and their families, they all need to know about the love of a great big God, who is bigger than our circumstances. He is bigger than the struggles of a single parent home. Bigger than a hurting economy. Bigger than the bullies our kids face every day. Bigger than the special needs of our children. God Is Bigger!
Who is going to tell the next generation about God’s Big Story? Is it just up to the pastor to share it one day a week? Will it be the job of the missionary to take it to the whole world? Parents, is it your job to share with your children? Is it the churches job, or the families?
The answer is YES!
The answer is yes to all of the above and more. Not only does it take a pastor, but it takes a small group leader who pours their life into the kids or others in their group. Not only does it take a missionary, but it takes children, students, and families being invested into missions and being missionaries themselves. Not only does it take parents, but it takes Christ centered voices from others within the church body. The future generation will be better anchored to the truth and power of God’s Big Story when they hear it at church, when they hear it at home, when they serve within it, and when they see others do the same. I heard it best stated today, it is not about picking a great curriculum, it is about being a great curriculum. It is about rising above the circumstances and focusing on a big God that loves us more than we can even imagine.
What do you think it means to “be a great curriculum”?
Well, in preparation for my trip to Atalanta this week, I felt like it was time to dust off the blog. I took a bit of a break while writing for StudentLifeforKids. The series ended a while back and I have been pretty quiet…
God is doing so many great things in my life, family, and ministry that I just can’t keep quiet. So, get ready to get a screen full as I begin sharing insights from my own walk with God in regards to life, kids, and family. Not only will you hear from me, but I will bring you the best of the web as I share other blogs, stories, and news from around the world that impact you.
Which brings me to the week ahead. My church has given me the privilege to attend my first Orange Conference, held in the amazing city of Atlanta. This conference is comprised of the nation’s most notable leaders and innovators in the areas of children, youth, and family ministry. I will have the opportunity to network with a host of men and women whom share my passion for the Lord and ministry to families. The experience will be invaluable as I will not only grow personally and professionally, but will be able to communicate with you and others the same insights I will gain.
So, keep it tuned right here for updates and thoughts as the week goes one. If you haven’t subscribed to my blog, I invite you to do that now. I appreciate your prayers for me and my family while I am away. Thanks for the read and the opportunity to serve you through it. God bless.
Me and politics mix about like oil and water. Much of the time I show a real lack of enthusiasm or even apathy when it comes to legislation. So, when something catches my attention within the political climate, it’s a big deal.
Such is the case with the Parental Rights Amendment.
This amendment is a preemptive change in the Constitution to secure the fundamental rights of parents to know and to act in the best interest of their children. It is necessary in regards to fairly recent changes in the United Nations and their establishment of the Convention on the Rights of the Child, or better known as the UNCRC or CRC. This treaty, presented as a way to help protect children, actually makes them more vulnerable and ties the hands of parents by giving parental rights to the government.
Can this really happen in America? Many disregard it, most are completely unaware, but US courts are increasingly ruling in favor of children over parents. To reiterate, I am not a political activists by any means, but we must understand the real danger involved with proven trends in government to break down the family unit.
Please take about 35 minutes to watch the video below, it is well worth it.
Today I spotlight the National Center for Biblical Parenting. This organization was formed in 1992 and has been providing practical and biblical parenting help ever since. Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller have written numerous books, lead a national seminar, and even provide personalized coaching for parents and their children. The NCBP has even developed Biblical Parenting University, where you can take a series of courses which teach a “heart-based” form of parenting. The NCBP partners with other family focused organizations such as AWANA, International Network of Children’s Ministry, and the Association of Marriage and Family Ministry.
Take time to visit their website and become familiar with the resources available there. Also remember to pray for their ministry as we all work together to minister to children and families.